The Art of Forgiving.

Ah forgiveness. So fickle and annoying. It's complex and wirey.  It attaches itself to layers of circumstances each one requiring you to work through it. An apology is secondary to forgiveness. True heartfelt, admittance of guilt, behavior changing apologies are rare. They will still require you to work through the offending action(s) and the offender to forgive themselves. So, any real, half-assed, blanket apology or lack thereof is just fluff. Your only task is to work through it and let go.  Forgiveness is an act done for yourself. A grudge is exhausting to hang onto and is good [...]

By | 2017-07-07T12:57:52+00:00 July 7th, 2017|0 Comments

The Road Goes Ever On

I will be shutting down Advice Over Pie and focusing solely on Buff Beads and a sister project. The foundation of AOP and the path it has created is beautiful and raw, but it comes from pain. It's roots are deep in suffering. I was sick with Ulcerative Colitis and tortured by my past. I am not that person anymore. Grace warms me and by remaining connected to my source the ego is kept at bay. I am healthy and mentally strong.  Memories of the past that shamed and tortured my mind and sickened my body no longer haunt me. But, [...]

By | 2017-07-07T15:57:07+00:00 April 4th, 2016|0 Comments

The Two Best Words You May Ever Hear.

Me Too. How glorious it is to hear those two words! I started Advice Over Pie because I was feeling incredibly lonely with my experiences. It took awhile. My attempts to make friends and be vulnerable was a little much for some. I don't recommend using "shame" in the same sentence as "nice to meet you." When I found I was scaring people away I began to attempt to warm up to people. This turned into a lot of fitting in and less belonging. I allowed myself to be patient and choosy with whom I told my story. I continued [...]

By | 2017-07-07T16:13:49+00:00 March 11th, 2016|0 Comments

Happy Happy Joy Joy!

Being positive and thinking happy thoughts is challenging. Sometimes it feels easier to just say "Eff it!" and wallow in self pity. But, I have spent time on the negative side of life where everything was heavy and I thought the world was against me, and I have to tell ya, it's better here on the lighter side where sometimes shit happens, but generally life is good. I see challenges and change as the universe moving and shifting me towards my goals and desires. I move with the flow and allow the current to guide me and trust in the [...]

By | 2017-07-07T17:38:33+00:00 November 30th, 2015|0 Comments

An Ode to October.

I awake in the pitch dark and it’s there to greet me. I get a tight coolness in my chest and throat that radiates down to warmth into my chest. A heavy rock in my gut. Warmth spreads outwards across my chest and up to my throat and to my tongue. I feel like it takes effort to get oxygen to my brain, but it’s more effort to try and breathe deep. The feeling comes before any thoughts. And I instinctively search desperately for a reason. Ah, there it is. This morning the anxiety is a reminder of my insolence. [...]

By | 2017-07-25T16:55:05+00:00 October 31st, 2015|0 Comments

Don’t Pole Vault Over Mouse Turds.

Don’t pole vault over mouse turds. Just pick it up and throw it away. Yes, it’s gross. Just grab a tissue and pick it up. You don’t need to call your friends over to see it. Why? Oh great, now you are all standing around talking about how revolting it is. That was unnecessary. Do you feel better? You still need to clean it up, does it help having your friends around telling you how gross it is? If they were really your friends they would help you. Yes everyone is leaving. They don’t want to talk about your crap [...]

By | 2017-07-25T17:10:06+00:00 July 8th, 2015|0 Comments

Your Worth.

You are worthy of love and of all good things. Why do I say this? Because you are.  We all are.  Not one more than the other.  We are all the same in our worth. So why do we then think one better than the other?  Because we are told that there is such a measure.  Being better implies that there is someone worse. You could argue morally there are some that are worse than others, but doesn't that just make us better than the actions the supposed worse person is doing? What is worse and what is better is relative. One [...]

By | 2017-07-25T17:19:55+00:00 June 19th, 2015|0 Comments

Me, My Self and My Ego

Everyone needs a hero. I met mine early last year. She has this radiance that is calming. I can see the universal wisdom in her eyes where even my most major circumstances are mere blips in comparison. Yet, she looks at me with such compassion and understanding that I am comforted immediately. She oozes confidence and dances uninhibitedly when she feels joy. She is silly, graceful, protective and loyal.  I want to be her. She is me. She is my Soul. She is my Self. _________________ When I’m with my tribe, ie husband, kids, sisters, brothers, bff, aunts, cousins…I am [...]

By | 2017-07-25T17:24:37+00:00 May 21st, 2015|0 Comments

How to Control a Crappy Situation

We had a fabulous lesson in tolerance this weekend. Learning how to control our reaction and emotions in uncontrollable circumstances is not easy. But it does get easier when we practice using the formula Event + Reaction = Outcome. We learn that we have control over how we feel and react to negative situations. Knowing that we have three options helps too.  We can change the situation, leave it or accept it. [Widget_Twitter id="1"]

By | 2015-05-19T14:32:50+00:00 May 19th, 2015|0 Comments

Harmonious

    Ahhh the feeling of being yourself with no fear of judgment. What a glorious feeling. Let's always do that, kay? And let's allow others to do the same!    

By | 2015-05-18T00:28:10+00:00 May 18th, 2015|0 Comments