How to Feel Fulfilled

You're unhappy and feeling out of control of your life. Nothing ever seems to go your way and you are seeing the same negative patterns with your job, relationships, and health. Some days are better than others, but you fall into slumps and the feeling of hopelessness just washes over you. Every day is the same and besides little bursts of excitement, the drab of reality is just painful. Life feels insane and out of your control. Everything is an uphill battle. Why is this happening? Are we just meant to go through life in this comatose like daze? No. [...]

By | 2017-08-06T08:28:25+00:00 February 4th, 2015|0 Comments

If You’re Happy in the Now. Stay There.

“Clearly there are no rules.” said the sun to the moon. “For if there were you would not be able to be with me in the daylight sky. The most glorious things happen in the daylight and I am so glad to have you here with me. Oh, but to have the opportunity to see the night. How much greater that might be.” The moon was thoughtful for a moment and then with full confidence it proclaimed. “Your joy is with me and here in the sunlight sky. Why speak of what cannot be when there is joy in the [...]

By | 2017-06-22T11:53:45+00:00 October 28th, 2014|0 Comments

I Was a Movie Star Drywaller

We hear rags to riches stories all the time. They seem to always start at the extreme end of poverty and end on the complete opposite side where the person is driving a Mercedes. There are many Dream Big stories coming true that aren't as noticeable and are much more believable. I did not grow up desolate poor and my Audi Q5 is still sitting snug as a bug on my vision board, but that isn't the point of my story. In a world where we are stuck in awful jobs, relationships, and financial instability, there is an abundance of [...]

By | 2017-06-21T23:16:50+00:00 August 28th, 2014|0 Comments


The Crohn's and Colitis Foundation of America are asking for true stories about living with  IBD and for selfies of the people who are living the life. My husband and I were married New Years Eve 2009.  He being American and me being Canadian we were apart the first year of our marriage awaiting his visa.  We sent each other selfies every day, sometimes numerous times a day. During this time I was suffering very badly from an Ulcerative Colitis flare up so the majority of my pictures were of me in bed, on the couch or in the hospital.  It [...]

By | 2017-10-16T14:19:59+00:00 August 18th, 2014|0 Comments

5 Ways to Feel Good

One of the ideas behind the term “Buff Yourself” is to create in us a data bank filled with ways to make ourselves feel good. On my days when I'm not feeling it, all I want to do is curl up on the couch with a bottle of wine and the Fellowship of the Rings. While there were days where I have done that, it’s not really a progressive way to get to my upswing.  These are a few ways to keep yourself present and give yourself a needed Buff. Show Yourself Compassion. You mean a lot to yourself. There’s [...]

By | 2017-08-09T14:21:52+00:00 August 14th, 2014|0 Comments

The Origin Story

This is how it began: I was diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis in 1999 when I was 23. I did not take care of it and spent the next 12 years generally feeling annoyed by it. Shortly after my diagnosis in 2000 I was introduced to The Fellowship of the Ring. I had heard of The Lord of The Rings, but I knew very little of it.  I went with no expectation and left with a hole in my soul and wanting to know everything. I saw it six times in theaters and each night I came home and cried. It [...]

By | 2017-06-21T22:17:15+00:00 August 4th, 2014|0 Comments

You Don’t Care? That’s Okay.

"I don't care" can be a harsh statement. It can potentially throw out the negativity that doesn't have to be there. The easiest way to pass off a hurtful comment is by saying "I don't care." But, that's not always the truth. "I don't care," said with defiance can bring even more power to the hurtful comment. It's helpful to remember that there will always be critics. The bigger your universe becomes the more critics you will have. It's best to accept that not everyone is going to agree with you and to be okay with that. When you allow [...]

By | 2017-08-09T15:02:29+00:00 July 11th, 2014|0 Comments

You Could Already Be a Winner!

I always used to wonder how some people just seemed to have all the greatest experiences happen for them. Dream job, meeting celebrities, crazy travel experiences. I recently discovered that what these people were doing differently than I was they were hoarding personal lottery tickets. A personal lottery ticket is something that you do to potentially give you a positive outcome down the road. Mailing a celebrity asking for an autograph, sending away a book you wrote off to a publisher, entering random contests. Most people don't bother for fear of rejection, embarrassment or just straight up "I don't win [...]

By | 2017-08-09T15:59:53+00:00 July 4th, 2014|Comments Off on You Could Already Be a Winner!

Authentically Real

“Real isn't how you are made,' said the Skin Horse. 'It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.' 'Does it hurt?' asked the Rabbit. 'Sometimes,' said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. 'When you are Real you don't mind being hurt.' 'Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,' he asked, 'or bit by bit?' 'It doesn't happen all at once,' said the Skin Horse. 'You become. [...]

By | 2017-08-09T16:34:16+00:00 June 28th, 2014|Comments Off on Authentically Real