The Two Best Words You May Ever Hear.

Me Too. How glorious it is to hear those two words! I started Advice Over Pie because I was feeling incredibly lonely with my experiences. It took awhile. My attempts to make friends and be vulnerable was a little much for some. I don't recommend using "shame" in the same sentence as "nice to meet you." When I found I was scaring people away I began to attempt to warm up to people. This turned into a lot of fitting in and less belonging. I allowed myself to be patient and choosy with whom I told my story. I continued [...]

By | 2017-08-11T11:47:16+00:00 March 11th, 2016|0 Comments

Don’t Pole Vault Over Mouse Turds.

Don’t pole vault over mouse turds. Just pick it up and throw it away. Yes, it’s gross. Just grab a tissue and pick it up. You don’t need to call your friends over to see it. Why? Oh great, now you are all standing around talking about how revolting it is. That was unnecessary. Do you feel better? You still need to clean it up, does it help having your friends around telling you how gross it is? If they were really your friends they would help you. Yes everyone is leaving. They don’t want to talk about your crap [...]

By | 2017-07-25T17:10:06+00:00 July 8th, 2015|0 Comments

You Don’t Care? That’s Okay.

"I don't care" can be a harsh statement. It can potentially throw out the negativity that doesn't have to be there. The easiest way to pass off a hurtful comment is by saying "I don't care." But, that's not always the truth. "I don't care," said with defiance can bring even more power to the hurtful comment. It's helpful to remember that there will always be critics. The bigger your universe becomes the more critics you will have. It's best to accept that not everyone is going to agree with you and to be okay with that. When you allow [...]

By | 2017-08-09T15:02:29+00:00 July 11th, 2014|0 Comments

Authentically Real

“Real isn't how you are made,' said the Skin Horse. 'It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.' 'Does it hurt?' asked the Rabbit. 'Sometimes,' said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. 'When you are Real you don't mind being hurt.' 'Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,' he asked, 'or bit by bit?' 'It doesn't happen all at once,' said the Skin Horse. 'You become. [...]

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