Have you ever had someone take your hand and then forcefully start beating you in the face with it? It’s a very unnatural and unpleasant feeling, not to mention it really hurts. We’re not meant to hurt ourselves with our own limbs and we’re not meant to hurt ourselves with our own words or thoughts.
I worked and lived with a woman who made my life miserable. She showed kindness and compassion to everyone she came across, but she loved to pick on me. Any mistake I made I was told how stupid I was. She knew all my secrets and loved to remind me of my most shameful memories. She was relentless in making me feel undeserving of all the greatness in my life. As soon as I got up in the morning she was there telling me I was lazy because I didn’t get up earlier to work out. She was sweet as pie to everyone else, yet she made me feel unworthy, unlovable and made me sick. This beast of a woman wasn’t a co-worker, spouse, sibling or parent, she was me.
How would it feel to know that others could hear your self-talk? Would you allow someone to speak to you the way you speak to yourself?
By becoming aware of the quality of our words we can change how we see ourselves and ultimately how others see us. Positive words whether to yourself or to another lead to a positive self-worth. Treat yourself with the kindness and compassion as you would any other. Just as the words that follow “You are” can have an effect, “I am” can be equally as powerful and should be used wisely. Unconsciously, our thoughts and self-talk run amok on their own. A trigger is often needed in order to snap us back to the present moment and regain control.
Buff Beads, worn loosely on the wrist, can be that trigger. Your subconscious is tied to the knowledge that Buff Beads are a reminder of your power and that YOU are in charge of your thoughts. So, as you unconsciously go about your day any glimpse of the beads or feeling of movement on your arm, will bring you present, allowing you to gather all those scattered potentially harmful thoughts and change them to conscious empowering words. This is self-love training and this can change your life.
Whether you use Buff Beads or another tool, the act of becoming present and self-aware will have a great impact on your life and in turn others. Being mindful of your self-care brings peace and happiness that comes from no outside source. You may know someone whose mere presence brings you peace and joy. You like to be around this person because there’s no pressure to be. It all just is. This is unrequited happiness. Created internally only, unrequited happiness is not reliant on anything but the individual and it’s contagious. It is birthed by regaining control over your inner thoughts and showing yourself love, forgiveness, and compassion. Unrequited happiness will come once you can look at yourself in the mirror and see your best friend. And you would never talk to your best friend the way you talk to yourself….
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”
― Gautama Buddha